We’re Changing What it Looks Like for Christians to Disagree–and It Can Be Beautiful
If you’re like me, you are especially hungry for the peace and goodwill this season promises. It’s been a particularly divisive year, featuring quarrelsome politics, ongoing race wars, and increasingly vocal disagreement across a range of social and economic issues. In families, churches, and society—conflict, fear, and ill abound.
More than ever, Christians of all ages and theological positions are caught in disagreements that ought to be opportunities for growth rather than obstacles. Too often our zeal for truth leads to verbal assaults and tarnished reputations.
At the family and local church level, this often results in divisions and infighting, which leads to frustration, embarrassment, and uncertainty (especially among millennials and youth). The tough questions alone aren’t harmful, but the unloving behavior displayed at the expense of grace and love certainly can be.
The church’s brand problem
On a large scale, this has created a brand problem for the church: people both inside and outside the church think Christ’s bride has lost her beauty. The church may be right, but she’s no longer attractive. Those outside the church are turned off by words and attitudes that are often less loving and compassionate than those offered by non-Christians. At the same time, those inside the church leave (as confirmed by studies such as Pew’s comprehensive study on declining church attendance and the ever-increasing tribe of “nones”). These days, it seems like more people are ducking out the back doors of churches than are coming in the front.
How we’re helping
At The Colossian Forum, we’re pioneering new ways of engaging difficult conversations. The Colossian Way leader training, coaching, and small group resources provide an effective, scalable program that equips pastors and lay leaders to change the way our churches think about and handle challenging issues. Little by little, we’re changing what it looks like for Christians to disagree—and it can be beautiful.
It’s only with your support that we can help the church be a place where people are loved collectively, even across difference, rather than judged individually before they walk out the door. Together we can make church a place where every relationship is an opportunity to see Jesus. And I can think of nothing more important for this fragmented world than for it to see Jesus in people like you and me, especially when we disagree.