Stop Saving Everyone (Even if You’re Good At It)

Have you ever felt the pressure to fix everyone else’s problems?

Maybe with your kids, your congregation, or coworkers, you step in, smooth things over, and carry weight that isn’t yours. It feels noble, but it can drain you and keep others from growing.

What if rescuing isn’t the most loving thing you can do?

In Part 2 of our Relational Triangles series, hosts Tanner Smith and Chase Rashad Stancle — joined by Sarah Johnson — unpack the “hero/rescuer” role of the Drama Triangle: why anxious systems reward over-functioning and how to shift from rescuer to coach with simple, wise questions.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why leaders are tempted to over-function

• How rescuing can quietly dishonor people

• Coaching questions to invite growth instead of fixing

Show Notes:

• Stephen Karpman’s Drama Triangle: Victim, Villain, Hero roles

• 1 Corinthians 12–14 (body metaphor)

• Slowing Down Guide — a simple, free, practical resource to help leaders pause, breathe, and show up as a peaceful presence when tensions rise

• PDF: Coaching Questions for Leaders — a free PDF with 10+ thoughtful prompts you can keep in your back pocket to reframe conflict and invite growth

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